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Can changing your thinking really change your life? Consider this: I’ve studied successful people for forty years, and though the diversity you find among them is astounding, I believe they are all alike in one way: how they think! That is the one thing that separates the successful from the unsuccessful.

The good news is that it’s possible to learn how to think like a successful person. But before we can learn from a good thinker, we need to know what they look like.  You often hear someone say that a colleague or friend is a “good thinker,” but that phrase means something different to everyone.  To one person it may mean having a high IQ, while to another it could mean knowing a bunch of trivia or being able to figure out whodunit when reading a mystery novel.

I believe that good thinking isn’t just one thing.  It consists of several specific thinking skills.  Becoming a good thinker means developing those skills to the best of your ability.  In Built to Last, Jim Collins and Jerry Porras describe what it means to be a visionary company, the kind of company that epitomizes the pinnacle of American business.  They describe it this way:

A visionary company is like a great work of art.  Think of Michelangelo’s scenes from Genesis on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel or his statue of David.  Think of a great and enduring novel like Huckleberry Finn or Crime and Punishment.  Think of Beethoven’s Ninth Symphony or Shakespeare’s Henry V.  Think of a beautifully designed building, like the masterpieces of Frank Lloyd Wright or Ludwig Mies van der Rohe.  You can’t point to any one single item that makes the whole thing work; it’s the entire work—all the pieces working together to create an overall effect—that leads to enduring greatness.

Good thinking is similar.  You need all the thinking “pieces” to become the kind of person who can achieve great things.  I believe that those pieces include eleven skills, which I’ve listed below. After each is a question you can ask yourself to measure your own thinking:

1. Cultivate Big-Picture Thinking

Am I thinking beyond myself and my world so that I process ideas with a holistic perspective?

2. Engage in Focused Thinking

Am I dedicated to removing distractions and mental clutter so that I can concentrate with clarity on the real issue?

3. Harness Creative Thinking

Am I working to break out of my “box,” exploring ideas and options, so I can experience creative breakthrough?

4. Employ Realistic Thinking

Am I building a solid foundation on facts so that I can think with certainty?

5. Utilize Strategic Thinking

Am I implementing strategic plans that give me direction for today and increase my potential for tomorrow?

6. Explore Possibility Thinking

Am I unleashing the enthusiasm of possibility thinking to find solutions for even seemingly impossible problems?

7. Learn from Reflective Thinking

Am I regularly revisiting the past to gain a true perspective and think with understanding?

8. Question Popular Thinking

Am I consciously rejecting the limitations of common thinking in order to accomplish uncommon results?

9. Benefit from Shared Thinking

Am I consistently searching the minds of others to think “over my head” and achieve compounding results?

10. Practice Unselfish Thinking

Am I continually considering others and their journey in order to think with maximum collaboration?

11. Rely on Bottom-Line Thinking

Do I stay focused on the bottom line so that I can gain the maximum return and reap the full potential of my thinking?

Based on your answers to the questions, where are you strongest? In what kind of thinking do you need to grow? Develop in any of those areas, and you’ll become a better thinker. Master all that you can—especially the process of shared thinking, which helps you compensate for your weak areas—and your life will change.

For specific guidance on developing as a good thinker, my book, How Successful People Think, devotes a chapter to each of the above skills. A companion workbook is also in the works.

The biggest lesson I have ever learned is the stupendous importance of what we think. If I knew what you think, I would know what you are, for your thoughts make you what you are; by changing our thoughts, we can change our lives.

Dale Carnegie

The mind moves in the direction of our currently dominant thoughts.

Earl Nightingale

Aug
17

The 3 R’s of Decision-making

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This past week on Twitter, I’ve been sharing some of my favorite quotes on priorities and time management.  Important topics for every generation, priorities and time management seem to become more and more crucial every decade.

Today, in the age of the smartphone and social media, even technology has joined the fight for our most precious commodity: TIME.

A few decades ago, I came up with three critical questions on priorities. They still serve me well today, and I hope they’re valuable to you.

Before any decision on where to invest my time, this is what I ask myself:

  1. What is REQUIRED of me? Any realistic assessment of priorities in any area of life must start with a realistic assessment of what you must do. For you to be a good spouse or parent, what is required of you? To satisfy your employer, what must you do? If you lead others, then what must you personally do that cannot be delegated to anyone else?
  2. What gives me the greatest RETURN? As you progress in your career, you begin to discover that some activities yield a much higher return for the effort than others. After determining requirements, focus on choices with a high return on investment (ROI).
  3. What gives me the greatest REWARD? If you do only what you must, along with what is effective, then you will probably be highly productive. But you may not be content. I think it’s also important to consider what gives you personal satisfaction.

Note: These questions are meant to be asked IN ORDER. Many of us would love to skip down to #3 and focus on the most rewarding/fun/exciting activities. But no one can be successful who doesn’t possess the discipline to take care of the first two areas before adding the third.

The time that you have on this earth is precious – every minute of it. As Ralph Waldo Emerson advised, “Guard well your spare moments. They are like uncut diamonds. Discard them and their value will never be known. Improve them and they will become the brightest gems in a useful life.”

~Adapted from Today Matters


Apr
30

Something fun for your weekend

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Only one week from today is a fantastic conference/simulcast: The Chick-fil-A Leadercast. I’m so pleased to be a part of a fantastic lineup of speakers, including Jim Collins (Good to Great), Tony Dungy (retired NFL Super Bowl-winning coach), Mark Sanborn (The Fred Factor), and Chip Heath (Made to Stick).

And while the conference will be live in Atlanta, Georgia, it will also be simulcast in many different cities worldwide.

(To see the whole speaker lineup
and find a location near you, visit Leadercast.com.)

Now, if you were at last year’s event, you might remember an “interview” between me and Tripp Crosby, one of the emcees.

Tripp’s parody video caught me totally by surprise, which is always fun. And it also made me look like an idiot, which I LOVED.  I enjoyed it so much that I posted it right here on my blog. (If you haven’t viewed that first fascinating interview, take a look.) A year later, I still get asked if I REALLY swim in a Snuggie. (No, I don’t.)

Well, my publishers, Thomas Nelson, loved Tripp’s comedy. So they couldn’t resist asking him to create a second “interview,” this time as a book trailer for Everyone Communicates, Few Connect. And the best part? I got to be in on the joke.

Here is the result:

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Isn’t that great? Tripp really captured my “essence,” didn’t he? (And I really hope the next printing of the book DOES have a scratch-n-sniff section.)

In addition to this promotional piece, the folks at Nelson also created a great webpage for the book. If you have a friend who would like to know more about Everyone Communicates, Few Connect, please feel free to point them in that direction.

And if you enjoyed Tripp’s hilarious sendup of me, you can find more of his writing and videos at his website, TrippCrosby.com.

Have a great weekend! I’m preaching in metro Atlanta, Georgia, Sunday. If you’re in the area, I’d love for you to join me at 12Stone Church.

Apr
27

Wherever you go, there you are.

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Flight

Travel is a big part of my work now. And this week’s schedule is especially heavy. In seven days I’m teaching in Louisiana, California, Ohio, Georgia, then Ohio again. Of course, it’s not a hardship because I get to connect with and pour into so many wonderful people. One connection that I especially enjoy is one-on-one, when I set aside time to chat and answer questions before or after my teaching sessions.

And there’s one topic that is often brought up: writing. Specifically, people come up and confide in me a desire to write. They want to know how I became a writer, and more importantly, how THEY can become a writer.

The first question I always ask is, “How much writing do you do right now?”

Some answer with a list of articles and other pieces that they’re writing or have already written. But I bet you can guess what most people answer: “Well, I haven’t really written anything yet.”

“Then you need to start writing,” I explain. “You’ve got to start small and work up to it.”

It’s the same with any endeavor. Take leadership: You’ve got to start small and work up to that. A person who has never led before should start by attempting to influence just one other person. Already have some influence? Then try to build a team. The key is to take the next step, not focus on the step a mile ahead.

Your dream may look unreachable. Of course, you could give up in the face of that. Or you could be like a friend of mine who went back to school in her late 40s.

“At first I was discouraged,” she said. “I’ll be a 52-year-old when I get this degree and start a new career.

“But then I thought about it. No matter what I do, I’ll be 52 in four years anyway. At least with this plan, I’ll be a 52-year-old college graduate.”

St. Francis of Assisi said, “Start doing what is necessary; then do what is possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” No matter how far away your dream is, you’ll only reach it by moving toward it. Everyone starts in the same place:

Where They Are.

The small responsibilities before you now comprise your first great conquest. Want to conquer the world? Start by conquering your backyard.

Apr
23

20 Winners … and no losers!

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20 Winners!

It’s time to announce the winners of the Big Case Giveaway! On April 5, we launched it with these simple rules: leave a comment on that post describing how YOU would use 24 copies of ECFC. The publishers’ favorite 20 comments would WIN 24 copies (a case) of the books.

With all of your comments, you all didn’t make their job easy. In one week, readers left 1,090 comments, with some amazingly creative ideas. All I can say is that I’m glad I wasn’t a judge!

So without further ado, here are the winners, as chosen by staff at Thomas Nelson Publishers. Each will receive one case (24 copies) of Everyone Communicates, Few Connect. I’ve included the comment number along with each name. We’re also notifying all winners via email within the next week.

  1. #63 Tyler Hartley // Apr 5, 2010 at 4:32 pm
  2. #64 Deacon Bradley // Apr 5, 2010 at 4:32 pm
  3. #146 Iana // Apr 5, 2010 at 6:42 pm
  4. #165 Bryan Burt // Apr 5, 2010 at 8:21 pm
  5. #263 Sol Greear // Apr 6, 2010 at 8:38 am
  6. #266 Chaplain Steph // Apr 6, 2010 at 8:49 am
  7. #275 Linda // Apr 6, 2010 at 9:08 am
  8. #369 Steve Blair // Apr 6, 2010 at 1:33 pm
  9. #373 RJ Barros // Apr 6, 2010 at 1:36 pm
  10. #387 Diana M. // Apr 6, 2010 at 1:43 pm
  11. #568 Angelee Murray, Sales Director // Apr 7, 2010 at 11:06 am
  12. #593 Erica Pefferman // Apr 7, 2010 at 2:24 pm
  13. #724 Paul Gustavson // Apr 7, 2010 at 10:16 pm
  14. #766 Tracey Messick // Apr 8, 2010 at 1:06 pm
  15. #792 Sylvia Scott // Apr 8, 2010 at 11:28 pm
  16. #921 Maryann Garding // Apr 10, 2010 at 1:34 pm
  17. #989 Julia Muscari // Apr 11, 2010 at 7:44 pm
  18. #1016 Anton Gunn // Apr 11, 2010 at 8:18 pm
  19. #1077 Millie Rosado // Apr 11, 2010 at 10:53 pm
  20. #1081 Edwin Sarmiento // Apr 11, 2010 at 11:19 pm

Congratulations to all of you! Now what’s this about…

No Losers?

We were only able to choose 20 winners of a free case of books. But based on your overwhelming response, it’s clear that many of you value the message of Everyone Communicates, Few Connect and would love to share it with others.

So, as a special thank you to all of my blog readers, we’ve arranged for a limited-time discount on the book:

45% off the cover price!

That’s just $14.29/each.

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I hope this is helpful to you. Feel free to share this offer with anyone you think might benefit from it.

Thank you again for participating! Your ideas were amazing.

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