ECFC excerpt and Twitter GIVEAWAY
ByIt’s here! Tomorrow is the “official” release date for Everyone Communicates, Few Connect.
And even though many bookstores actually started stocking it weeks ago, we still want to celebrate by offering something to you now. So over the next few days, look for promotions here on the blog, on Facebook, and on Twitter.
TOMORROW (March 30) is an all-day giveaway on Twitter.
(Obviously, if you don’t already follow me there, now’s a good time to start.)
Just log onto Twitter 3/30/2010 at or after 9:00 a.m. EDT, when I’ll share how to enter. Your patience will be rewarded.
Now on that note, I’ll share a timely excerpt from Everyone Communicates, Few Connect:
Connecting Requires Patience
We live in an impatient culture. We use drive-through windows to buy meals, pick up our dry cleaning, complete banking transactions, and order prescriptions. I think Lisa Thorne’s comment on my blog describes a lot of us: “The good news is I move fast; the bad news is I often move alone.”4 Everybody is in a hurry, but that prevents most of us from connecting with others effectively. If you want to connect with people, you need to slow down.
I must admit, impatience has always been a weakness for me, and I have continually had to work on it. Early in my career, I wanted to do things as quickly as possible and move on to the next thing. If someone didn’t want to move at my speed, I breezed right past him or her. But that leadership style hindered my ability to connect with others, and my relationships suffered. The good news was that I moved fast. The bad news was that I often moved alone.
Moving at the speed of another person can be exhausting. It obviously takes energy to keep up with someone who is moving faster than we are. But isn’t it also tiring to move at a slower pace than we want to? Henry David Thoreau wrote, “The man who goes alone can start the day. But he who travels with another must wait until the other is ready.” I find waiting very frustrating. It tries my patience. However, if I want to connect with people, I have to be willing to slow down and go at someone else’s pace. Good connectors don’t always run the fastest, but they are able to take others with them. They exhibit patience. They set aside their own agendas to include others. These things require energy. But I’ve discovered over the years that anything really worthwhile in life takes time to build.
From Everyone Communicates, Few Connect
First post!!! John, Thank you so much for your insight and your practical approach to leadership. You are quite a fantastic influence!!!
I am looking forward to reading the book; I own most of your books, that have prepared me for a leadership position I am embarking on. Love it. Thank You
Very valuable and practical information.
thanks
Good morning! I will go out and buy my book today!!! Can’t wait! I don’t know one person who shouldn’t read this book. It was such a joy to participate in it. I enjoy reading all of your posts and look forward to receiving an email that you’ve posted another refreshing, positive message. God certainly uses you to uplift others. God bless you and “keep them coming”!!
I am so looking forward to reading the book “again”, in the flesh so to speak.
And for all those to whom I have recommended it, to be able to get to read it!
Got my Kindle edition this morning. I am already hooked and loving it. Thank you for your continuing effort to provide us with such a great education.
I love your books John. They have taught me so much about people and leadership. In North America we have a faster pace than anywhere else in the world because here its all about competition.
We buried my sister-in-law a few weeks ago and it really made us all slow down to the pace of the oldest in the family. I admit it was very challenging, but t was a good lesson in patience, especially when we had nearly 1000 people come through the receiving line.
I look forward to your new book!
Got my book several weeks ago. Enjoying the read. Awesome insights. It was fun to see my name in the back as one of the “contributors”–having read and shared when the gally chapters were online.
What a great way to really connect with people–listening as you lead.
I recently purchased a coppie of the new book and it”s proven to be everything that J.Maxwell;said it would be.My 15yr son is reading it,and he now said’s he has a goal,and plan,that he want’s to see manafested in his life;where as a short–time-back,all he did was text,and talk on the phone,mostly-texting,but now he’s reading one chapther aday,and he’s applieing the excurises in the book.Great Work John,A Happy Father;J.R.Agosto:
I recently purchased a copy of the new book and it”s proven to be everything that J.Maxwell;said it would be.My 15yr son is reading it,and he now said’s he has a goal,and plan,that he want’s to see manafested in his life;where as a short–time-back,all he did was text,and talk on the phone,mostly-texting,but now he’s reading one chapther aday,and he’s applieing the excurises in the book.Great Work John,A Happy Father;J.R.Agosto:
Finished Put your Deams to the Test after you visited us at Celebration and looking forward to now diving into Everyone Communicates, Few Connect. Hoping to pass it on to my senior as part of her Starter kit to College. Thanks for all your good work and sharing your wisdom! Passing along your offer via ReTweets so more can become better leaders by enjoying your work !!!! Keep em coming!!
Great Post, looking forward to reading this book! I agree with working on being more patient. This is something I pray about everyday. When it comes to dealing with others, we cannot afford to be efficient, we must take our time and be effective!
Yes, thanks John for a wonderful connection of thoughts really incourage me to look forward..for a copy of the book
again thank you …
What a great title and timely topic. As you have stated in your other books, “Communication is not what one says but how what is said is perceived.” Looking forward to read your book.
What a great title and timely topic. As you have stated in your other books, “Communication is not what one says but how what is said is perceived.” Looking forward to reading your book
John Dr:
I like this article, because I only through translation software to read your book, it is possible to lose the original meaning, it is very regrettable.
Article translated often deviate from the original. Questions and answers. Problems at the end. Meaning has lost its original intent.
Misunderstandings often arise from this, communication is really difficult!
At the same time, Thank you for your great wisdom! And admirable patience!
Student: Yu Hong
2010.4.2
Kudos John. You have always been a blessing to me. Been following the Connector’s series for a while now, really imparting. Keep up the good work.
I organized and established a new group for local meetups in Orange county CA. The group is called Mentor Matchup and the first meeting is April 28th…
I believe that “Mentoring is a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction.” ~ John Crosby
I started this group because I believe there are a lot of other men and women out there who are looking for strong MENTORS who have been there, done that and successfully worn it! I want this group to be an opportunity for men and women entrepreneurs and executives who are looking for their perfect MENTOR MATCH, to meet and build a team of trusted personal advisors.
Our aim is to bring together professionals from a variety of industries and backgrounds to help build long-term relationships and support businesses in Orange County. To achieve this we will be facilitating a variety of events that will be the platform to grow business in Orange County. Members are asked to come with business cards, an open mind to meet new people and learn new things, and the intention of building long term relationships…. as well as the mindset of paying it forward.
I would love to have a copy of your book to give to all my new members!
I have 37 new members since organizing last month, and look forward to many more!
http://www.meetup.com/MENTOR-MATCHUP/about/
I lead a mixed singles group of 18 members aged 30′s- 40′s and I would love to pass on a copy this book. Actually, I would like to lead a small group with your book. I think that the primary breakdown in any relationship, business or personal, is our misperception of what the other person is communicating because we base our interpretation on our own life experiences without attempting to see and hear through anothers perspective. I would also pass on to a few of my closet friends and relatives.