Comments on: Connectors Create an Experience Everyone Enjoys http://johnmaxwellonleadership.com/2009/10/26/connectors-create-an-experience-everyone-enjoys/ Everything rises and falls on leadership Thu, 17 May 2012 02:03:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Janet George http://johnmaxwellonleadership.com/2009/10/26/connectors-create-an-experience-everyone-enjoys/comment-page-2/#comment-2476 Janet George Mon, 02 Nov 2009 02:44:51 +0000 http://johnmaxwellonleadership.com/?p=304#comment-2476 I was surprised to find myself not agreeing with you early on in the chapter. When I read, " Now think about the communicators you don’t care for, the ones who were unable to connect with you. If I asked you to describe them using only one word, what would it be? I’m willing to bet that the word would be boring." it was not "boring" that came to mind. I couldn't put it in one word, but what I was thinking is that the communicators I don't care for and who I do not allow to connect with me are the ones I do not respect. If your past actions haven't earned my respect, then nothing you say in a speech will make me connect with you. If I don't respect you, chances are good that I don't trust you, and when I don't trust you, I don't want to hear anything that comes out of your mouth. (Barak Obama is a good example of someone like that.) No amount of stories or humor will change that. Action speaks much louder than talk. I listen to Mike Huckabee every weekend on TV because he's earned my respect so I want to hear what he says. He's proven credible with his actions so I trust him and can allow him to connect with me. But, after giving this further thought, if the speaker were someone I'd never heard of, then I would agree that "boring" would be an apt one word description. I liked Danny L Smith's comment, "True connectivity has to be grounded in credibility." "Cemetery communication" - funny! Like that! Thanks for the diaper lesson! LOL I'll probably remember that more than any other words from the chapter! Loved the "old saying" about "Talk." You mentioned saying your name and then asking audience to say theirs. I have to confess, I've heard that done so much it's gotten really old and I kinda roll my eyes when a speaker does that. Without meaning to sound flippant, the flippant remark "That's so yesterday" does come to mind. Loved the story Judy White, The Infusion Group, LLC, wrote. I'll remember her story along with the diaper one! Thanks for another great chapter that leaves me thinking. I was surprised to find myself not agreeing with you early on in the chapter. When I read, ” Now think about the communicators you don’t care for, the ones who were unable to connect with you. If I asked you to describe them using only one word, what would it be? I’m willing to bet that the word would be boring.” it was not “boring” that came to mind. I couldn’t put it in one word, but what I was thinking is that the communicators I don’t care for and who I do not allow to connect with me are the ones I do not respect. If your past actions haven’t earned my respect, then nothing you say in a speech will make me connect with you. If I don’t respect you, chances are good that I don’t trust you, and when I don’t trust you, I don’t want to hear anything that comes out of your mouth. (Barak Obama is a good example of someone like that.) No amount of stories or humor will change that. Action speaks much louder than talk. I listen to Mike Huckabee every weekend on TV because he’s earned my respect so I want to hear what he says. He’s proven credible with his actions so I trust him and can allow him to connect with me. But, after giving this further thought, if the speaker were someone I’d never heard of, then I would agree that “boring” would be an apt one word description. I liked Danny L Smith’s comment, “True connectivity has to be grounded in credibility.”

“Cemetery communication” – funny! Like that!

Thanks for the diaper lesson! LOL I’ll probably remember that more than any other words from the chapter!

Loved the “old saying” about “Talk.”

You mentioned saying your name and then asking audience to say theirs. I have to confess, I’ve heard that done so much it’s gotten really old and I kinda roll my eyes when a speaker does that. Without meaning to sound flippant, the flippant remark “That’s so yesterday” does come to mind.

Loved the story Judy White, The Infusion Group, LLC, wrote. I’ll remember her story along with the diaper one!

Thanks for another great chapter that leaves me thinking.

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